She was one of my first business mentors, who over the years demonstrated with her actions what elegant sovereignty could bring to transformation and change, especially in conservative companies. Her fresh ways, combined with deep understanding of the mechanics of ‘old school’ enabled her to cross divides and bring newness to stuck-structures while delighting her customers and teams along the way. She amazed me 17 years ago when I was still a squirt in business development using basic skills without much experience. I observed her build teams, enhance what service with a smile meant over large scale and challenge those old school methods which often dominated her industry. Without breaking things, she evolved things. That has been amazing and why for the last 15 years, while I have been living in Europe, I would meet with her every year for a catch up which would always range from the intensely personal, to the detailed professional insights of what was going on.
These days, she enjoys executive consulting, and has a ‘Mary Poppins-type-bag’ of functional tools from direct experience which she shares. In my video here you hear her explain the ‘Cabinet Re-shuffle’ method which she recommends for people development as well as departmental upskilling.
Dayle is also keeping that spoonful of sugar in organisation change strategising large-scale shifts over the next years which I am interested to keep observing her method as she spans now between not-for-profit organisations who have missions to fulfil to government agencies who have long-term citizen goals at hand. These days, I am lucky to be able to collaborate with Dayle as we have found a co-creative space to leverage each other’s skills and offerings to bring our many years of shared project stories together for customers who seek her fresh and validated people and organisational change skills. Together, we team up to support companies who seek the shift to sustainability, with access to my methods for #GreenTurnaround and her inspiring people and organisational change tools. A great combo, which often has glasses of wine involved. This video is inviting you in on one of our catch ups, where we talk about tools and projects.
I am very grateful that over the paths of life, Dayle and I kept our connection. An honour for me.
Earlier in the day from this video, I had asked friends of mine if they had questions for their mentor. I received great questions, which Dayle answers in the video directly. You see that in the second half of our video.
I asked 2 of those friends to actually answer their own question and here they are now.
Naomi Warth had asked: ‘If you knew you couldn't fail, what would you have done differently? ‘
When I asked her what answer she would have given someone who asked that, she said
‘If I knew I’d never fail I wouldn’t be afraid to embrace things like that masters degree, that management job, that handstand push-up! Etc etc I’d strive to go past that boundary I’ve defined that makes things feel beyond my reach because of fear of failure.. 🙂’
Carol Bonin had asked: ‘Which piece of advice did people thanked you the most until now?’
Carol herself, is a coach and had an insightful answer to her own question.
‘’ ‘It's ok to take your time’ ”. Sometimes this had to do with accepting that one is not "inspired" at that moment, because the body or the emotions where actually working full speed in that person. Performance is not only what we create new but also what we transform "anew" in which at first glance seams as "no work" but is actually loads of work when we speak of inner development. It's actually a practice of self-love: feeling you are worthy this time and acknowledging the work you are actually doing made this people feel extremely thankful, so they thanked me for feeling better and stronger but actually they were thanking as well themselves. For others it was about learning not to "need" to do or say something when they believed others "wanted" something from them, most often, team leaders, who were actually looking for "a confirmation they were doing a good job and being wanted" - the moment they learned it's ok to just listen and don't act out of the impulse "I need to say or do something because this person expects it from it" and instead learned to allow themselves to make a pause, give themselves the time and simply ask back "what is it I can do for you" or sometimes simply try to be more attentive and listen if people were asking them something and what. Not being caught in the trigger of "I need to react now for this person to accept me" and realising the people were coming to them because they were already appreciated, gave them a feeling of peace and easiness for which they were extremely grateful as well, again not only to myself but to themselves for allowing them to be in that new space.’
You can find more of Carol here: https://www.carolinafernandes.coach/
Are you still in touch with your early mentors? If not, maybe take this as a nudge to be in touch again. If they inspired you once before, I think they likely can again! Maybe, you are able to support them too! Viva return. Lyss